- Is Couples Counseling Right for You?
- Do you feel emotionally disconnected?
- Do you long for intimacy?
- Are you continually arguing about the same issues?
Do you feel lonely even in the presence of your partner? Maybe you were once best friends and you feel like you’re steadily growing apart. Perhaps you fear that you will never find the close connection you once had. These feelings may lead you to fight with your partner about the same issues over and over. You may even leave an argument wondering, “What were we even fighting about?” These conflicts often lead to more distance and strain in the relationship, causing you to feel hopeless or afraid.
If you want to have a deeper connection with your partner, the first step is to realize that you can. No one is doomed to a failing marriage, but to turn things around, you have to take action.
“We’ve done couples counseling work, and it hasn’t helped us in the past. Why will this be any different?”
Great question. I help you explore what is getting in the way of your closeness during our couples counseling sessions. We don’t focus on the little details; we get to the heart of the matter quickly. Together, we make sense of what triggers your bad feelings and develop a way to lessen the intensity and frequency of those triggers.
Think about it this way:
When you and your partner first got together, you didn’t have “habits” for how you reacted to each other; everything was new and fresh. These habits you have are an ingrained way of dealing with each othe,r and we need to clear out those old habits and create new ones that come from a more loving place.
I want to help you get back to the people you were when you first fell in love. From that place, you can remember that you’re truly with the one person in the world who loves and cherishes you. When you have that belief about your partner, anything is possible for your relationship.
People who are securely connected to their partner:
- Are healthier
- Are happier
- Have more frequent and satisfying sex
- Are less “needy”
- Find more satisfaction in being together
- Rely on each other more
- Parent more as a team
- Find more fulfillment in life
- Are more successful and happier at work
- Are less likely to experience burnout
- More likely to feel a sense of fulfillment in their chosen career.
- Manage pain, disappointment, and fear better
The financial cost associated with divorce attorneys, moving, alimony and child support are only a small representation of the true cost of divorce.
The true cost of not seeking relationship help is the heartache, emotional exhaustion, loneliness, and despair that accompanies distress in a relationship.
While it may sound a bit cliché, the real question is how could you afford not to invest in the one area of your life that research has proven over and over again is your greatest possible source for success and happiness?
You spend so much time and energy taking care of people around you. NOW is the time to take care of yourself and your most important relationship.